ERROR 202

 

ERROR 202

 

So, few days back I was trying to check out the help section of my online banking account as I had locked my transaction password. While I was struggling to understand how I could unlock it, I saw the 'Help' tab and clicked on it thinking that it will solve my issue. However, when I pressed on it, it showed- "Error 202, Your request could not be processed Try after some time." It’s so funny that even for help, you need help! Life is so much similar.

 

Also there is ERROR in our relationships due to several reasons. When we forget our password, we keep follow "trial & error method". Each time we enter a wrong password, we feel confident that this might work. After failing for few attempts our account is locked. Similarly, in life, we often keep running after that friend, cousin, partner or anyone who we feel are right but they are actually not. And those who are good to us, true to us, are often taken for granted. We even forget to acknowledge the efforts put in daily by those who love us truly. Think for yourself, how many times you acknowledge your mom for the food she makes for you, everyday, morning to night. How many times have you thanked your father for his constant support and for working hard to give you a better life? How many times have you hugged your children when they were low and told they were the best? After an argument, have you called your true friend and told him/her that you love them and that you are sorry? We often are confident with the wrong password. And doubtful of the right one. Similarly we easily forgive those person who hurt us, who fail to understand us, just because we want them in our life. This may be at the cost of our self respect at times. But when it comes to our loved ones, those who care for us and love us, a small argument or disagreement creates a vacuum, which unfortunately may last for a lifetime.

 

Why do we find it so difficult to keep our ego aside and get back to our loved ones? Because we took them for granted! We ASSUMED that they will be with us, always. We ASSUMED that they will behave the way we want, forever. Any deviation from the behaviour is not acceptable to us. We often let go our loved ones and later regret. And sometimes we are so busy that we don't even realise that there is a permanent crack. When we are upset, we want other person to be available, when we are happy we expect other to be cheerful too. But everyone may not be at same page. I might be low while you celebrate your birthday or anything. So, should I put a mask and be happy or you be with me and help me overcome my low phase. I have no right answer (we may differ). It depends on understanding and maturity level, but for me, anyone who has been there during your low phases, is the one to stick with.

 

Be a little more thoughtful before making any ASSUMPTIONS. You can lose a true friend for lifetime in the process of judgement. So if your best friend (who has been with you in spirit) is not picking your phone, before telling him/her that you have changed, try and find out reason behind it. If your friend misses your birthday party, instead of telling they have changed, try and find out the reason. If your friend is not responding to your message and calls, doesn’t mean that they are unavailable for you forever.

Ofcourse, people change, people lie and betray. And we often run after such people giving them a second chance, third chance and infinite chances. But when our true friend commits a mistake, we are quick to declare them guilty.

 

Let us now move to solutions and brainstorm as to how we can fix these ERRORS in our life.

Let me give tips from my experience (This is what I am trying myself)

ü  Firstly, be (and not pretend) a nice person only then we can talk about others.

ü  Secondly be wise to identify the Incorrect & Correct passwords of your life, i.e. fake and true well-wishers. Never forget and let go the people who were there for you during your bad times. 

ü Third, LET GO! Let go all the toxic people in your life. You might love them but if they don't care for you, you will end up suffering, each time you give them a chance. Worse will be that you will be hurting those who love you for people who don't ! (It is important to hold on to relationships and not to give up, but if this is with wrong people, nothing will be right ever!)

ü  Fourth, if you commit a mistake, accept and apologise as soon as u can. Waiting will only ruin the relationships. Also, silence is not always acceptance (relationships are not contracts). You cant just move on without sorting the issue. It will create a permanent gap.

ü  Fifth, if your loved one (CORRECT ONE) makes a mistake, we expect they will realise and fix the things. In case, they fail to do so, help them. Don't give up on true relationships.

 

And lastly, DO NOT judge people. Especially when its about seeing the status, messages, comments on social media and replying. How easily we judge that there is a blue tick on WhatsApp and still he/she didn’t reply and we go on bombarding them with so many taunts/comments based on our judgement. There could be thousand reasons, pls ASK before you judge.

 

So basically, it is all about identification (and not judging) the ERRORS in our life and fixing them, ofcourse on time. If you don’t do so, your account will be blocked forever!